9. They either slept too much or too little, and their irregular routine left them irritable and unreasonable.
10. They chose to be a lone wolf when really, all they desperately wanted was to be one of a pack. You couldn’t figure out why they’d continue to deny themselves the one thing they were really starving for.
11. You began to think that you were the crazy one. They projected all of their moods and judgments onto you, and every time you responded in a way that a normal, healthy person would to the madness, you were the one labelled insane. It never occurred to them to ask why they always end up with “crazy people,” and perhaps if the common denominator was them.
12. You felt as though you always had to decode what they were trying to say. They couldn’t communicate clearly or directly, everything was hinted at and analogized. It was implied and suggested. You never knew where you stood, and you were left tirelessly trying to put together the pieces.
13. They wanted to be well. In fact, trying to hide their depression is what created the anger, and it was all stemmed from the fact that they so desperately wanted to be past it in the first place. They weren’t bad. They were just sick.
14. You had to learn that someone who always finds fault in others can’t see much good in themselves. That people can only meet you as far as they’ve met themselves.
15. You had to learn that often, things aren’t what they seem. Depression doesn’t always read as sadness. Anxiety doesn’t always read as fear. And in fact, there are a lot of behaviors that seem nothing like either of those illnesses, but have everything to do with both.
16. You had to learn the hardest lesson of all, which is that you can only love people as much as they are willing to be loved. You can stay with someone through their darkest hours, but if they don’t want to come out on the other side with you, they won’t. You had to find the fine and painful line between being a partner and being a martyr.
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